18 Feb Self-Love: The Next Big Thing
Written by Katie Fowler
Why do people always say that if you want to find love, you have to love yourself first? It turns out that the most important relationship you have in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. Pretty simple right?
Many people forget this when seeking love and can put their whole purpose and self-worth in another individual, leaving themselves empty. Self-love is not only important in relationships with others but in relationship to yourself, such as the food you eat, the people you surround yourself with, and how you make quality time for yourself.
We believe once you truly feel self-love then you will attract happiness and love in abundance (and who doesn’t want that!), so we put together a little guide to loving yourself below:
How to love yourself first
When we’re not looking out for ourselves, we can tend to look for our self-worth and happiness in the external world. We slip into indulging in habits, things, people that make us feel better, but then we rely on them to feel good. Doing things that make YOU happy and that speak to your inner self will help you to build your happiness, self-esteem and confidence long-term.
How to love yourself first starts with building your self-esteem and building self-confidence. Self-esteem is created by acknowledging and appreciating what you see in yourself. Explore who you are. What are your values and beliefs? What are you passionate about? What do you take pride in? What do you offer in friendship, at work, in relationships, that is valuable and valued?
How you feel about yourself affects your mood, the way you carry yourself, and your confidence. Self-love, then, is any practice that builds a more constructive and productive way of how you feel about yourself.
These small practices get largely overlooked in a rapid-moving life where it’s easy to find ourselves at the bottom of our own priorities list. Practising self-love can look like anything from taking 10 minutes for yourself, no phone in hand, and simply being present to taking a one-hour vinyasa yoga class. Here are some more ideas:
Guide to loving yourself
Be nicer to yourself
Every word we utter, we are creating energy and, in turn, a belief. Think of it like this – if you said to yourself “wow, I actually did my best during that meeting and I can already see how to handle it even better next time” instead of saying “I’m hopeless and I’m going to get fired”, how much more empowered would you feel? Probably a lot less stressed too. Appreciate yourself as often as you can.
Don’t forget your tribe
Surrounding yourself with positive influences is important as we all need support in our lives. There’s nothing like having a laugh with your best friends, meeting new people, building a network of positive energy around you. Once you begin to feel self-love you will radiate that love outward and increasingly attract like-people so that healthy relationships can be built.
Delve into your spiritual self
Appreciate your authentic self through finding what it is you believe in when it comes to you, the world around you and the things that happen to us all. Explore what spirituality means to you. It can open up huge doors for you, give you more purpose, and maybe even help build your intuition, something many people leave untapped until much later in life.
Love your body
The saying goes, your body is a temple, so why not treat it like one? Intentionally feed your body nutrient-dense foods bringing energy and nourishment to your soul. Do this not only because you want to look good but because you want to feel good too.
Do things you’re good at
Doing things you are good at and genuinely like to do brings out the best version of you! Your self-esteem will get a boost and so will your happy hormones. So, if you love to bake, pre-heat that oven. If you love to dance, sign up to a dance class. Once you get started, the possibilities are endless.
So you know that thing you keep saying you’d love to do? This is the sign you’ve been waiting for that you should just go and do it!